showered, again

last saturday, some of the best girls in the bay threw me a bridal shower at katie's new building's seventh floor terrace overlooking the bay bridge. i certainly missed many of my beautiful san francisco and palo alto friends, but it was such a lovely little celebration. 

i do think it's pretty weird that i get parties and presents, just because someone gave me an engagement ring, but it is so fun to share and celebrate love with friends. it was pretty neat to be with friends from the both the city and the suburbs; from college, work and childhood that clear and pretty saturday.


thirty (and a little secret revealed!)

last week was the boy's thirtieth birthday!

we celebrated all week long, culminating in a party with friends and a huge chocolate cake with sparklers in it (which were a little too close for comfort in this picture...)
you also might notice from this picture that the boy's name! i first started calling him "the boy" on this blog because i wanted to be sensitive to his privacy in some way, and honestly because i wasn't sure at all how i felt about him, and naming him just seemed too conclusive, i guess! and "the boy" just stuck! and then it became a bit endearing to those close to us. and then i kind of enjoyed continuing the mystery :) (although there were plenty of giveaways on my sister and mom's blogs, and even a clue on the post about his birthday last year...) i'm probably going to keep calling him the boy on the blog...

and holy cow i am so glad he was born. i asked thirty people in his life to write him a little note of love, admiration and appreciation and compiled them as a birthday gift. as i read through what his siblings, parents, grandparents, friends and those he serves and serves with in church wrote about him, i was overwhelmed by what a remarkable human being the boy is. i wish everyone could know him - he is the most earnest, good to the core man i've ever encountered. he has a golden sparkly heart. and i am crazy in love with him. 

i am so grateful for how the boy spent the first thirty years of his life becoming who he is, and i'm so excited to spend the next thirty by his side (and the next, and the next). 


planning, planning

my life has sort of been consumed by wedding planning. we are having several celebrations, and there are so many details, and so many choices, and so many options for every choice! but also, my life can't be consumed by this, because there's still so much else going on! it's a peculiar feeling to want time to slow down so we have more space to make plans but simultaneously want time to speed up so we can get to the exciting day and start our lives together. i don't think i'll ever feel this particular brand of mortality again, so i'm doing my best to chose to relish it, even when things feel really stressful. cutting through all the to-dos, i constantly remember how grateful my heart is. 

a few things i am learning from planning a wedding:

-just make a decision and decide it's the best decision. stop considering other options. the stress of everything being just right is not worth it. i have to decide that it is just right! i think this is a really valuable lesson for me to learn for my life in general.

-weddings are expensive!!! and tradeoffs are difficult, but valuable.

-even thought it's the day i've been waiting for and dreaming up my whole life, nothing actually matters. except that i am marrying someone that i love infinitely and trust fiercely.
there's another life lesson: only the stuff that really matters really matters.

-i am more in love with the boy every single day. we think about things so wildly differently, and we have dissimilar priorities on some (doesn't-really-matter) stuff. we are learning how to be together. it's hard and also really really awesome. 
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